For this podcast, I spoke with Monika Pietrowski from My Wellness Pie about how to heal trauma.
You can listen to the podcast here.
– What exactly is trauma and how it affects you
– How hypnosis works to heal trauma
– Various strategies you can employ to release trauma today
Why I’m Dedicated to Healing Trauma
I’m originally from the US but came to Australia in 2007 for a late-in-life gap year. I ended up getting married, having kids and staying here. It’s a wonderful country to raise children.
But back in 2015/206, I got divorced and it was quite traumatic. I lost my marriage, my house, my business and the ability to travel with my children in a single year.
I took full responsibility for it and began to explore different healing modalities.
Before that, I had done talk therapy with psychologists and I didn’t see much of an improvement in my life. I was eating healthy, doing yoga, reading about Jungian psychology and doing all the surface stuff, but nothing was shifting.
It wasn’t until I discovered the subconscious and trauma healing that I saw things change positively—in a dramatically positive way!
I still think talk therapy is important as a tool to identify the issues and investigate your behavior, but it was not an appropriate solution for me. Trauma lives in your body, so you have to have a somatic approach and understand emotions and triggers.
Healing trauma requires that you feel rather than think.
My favorite wellness hack
I created one. It’s called Belief Hacking and it’s how I reprogram the subconscious mind to change patterns, heal trauma and reach goals.
Our beliefs create our reality, so if you don’t want something showing up anymore, or you’re having trouble starting or changing, this process allows you to remove the block/trauma that is causing the issue and reprogram your reality.
I use muscle testing to access the root cause issue—in childhood or past life—and from there I clear it, rewrite it and then take action to integrate the new belief.
What is trauma?
At its core, trauma is any experience—no matter how big or small—that causes dysregulation of your nervous system and disconnects you from your true “self.”
You get stuck in what’s commonly heard as fight/flight/freeze/fawn when you’re dealing with trauma.
Trauma is not necessarily the event that occurred, but rather how you experienced it.
Traumas program you to use protective processes to keep you safe.
A lot of our behaviors are just us trying to keep ourselves safe.
These processes, which are stored in your body and nervous system, keep you safe, but they can also prevent you from experiencing and achieving what you desire in life and business.
Trauma can manifest as a constant state of fight-flight-freeze, anxiety, flashbacks, depression or looping (the same patterns presenting in your life over and over again). Or as stated above, prevent you from starting, scaling or feeling successful in business.
Trauma can be reprogrammed by accessing the root cause event that created the limiting beliefs and emotions which are stored in your nervous system and accessed through the subconscious mind.
Everyone has trauma and the levels and severity differ for each person.
– Domestic violence
– Rape or sexual assault
– Natural disasters
– Any type of assault
– Chronic stress
– Undiagnosed learning disabilities
– Life shocks (death, divorce, job loss, suicide)
– Child abuse
How does trauma affect you?
Trauma keeps you stuck. It prevents you from achieving goals or changing because subconsciously this is considered “unsafe.” Our natural state is one of constant change and evolution. If we aren’t able to access this “flow state” then there is most likely unhealed trauma to blame.
When people refer to limiting beliefs or self-sabotage this is what they are referring to. Those terms are like the new age way of defining trauma. And I don’t particularly like them because they imply a bit of shame and guilt. The implication is “you’re doing this to yourself.” This is true, but also untrue as most people experience trauma as a result of the actions of others.
That being said, the limiting beliefs are the result of your interpretation of the event and thus classified as trauma. Since you created it, you can uncreate it.
The good thing about defining trauma that way is that it gives people agency and accountability as you can heal your trauma. It is all in your hands, but obviously with the support of trained therapists and practitioners.
How do you heal trauma?
1. The goal is to transform the fight/flight/freeze/fawn response into one of safety and connection with self and others.
When people are traumatized, they will isolate themselves and do things to try to feel safe—this is where addictions show up. Addictions are a way to escape from the pain.
2. When you’re healing trauma, you have to work with the mind AND the body. You can’t just talk about trauma to heal it. It needs to be processed and integrated.
It’s about developing a safe relationship with your own body. When people are traumatized, they disassociate and leave their bodies. They aren’t consciously in their own bodies as their body doesn’t feel safe since it’s holding on to all that trauma. They aren’t aware of what’s happening to their bodies, in fact they can feel quite numb. Addictions are also a way to keep us out of our bodies.
Why? Because our bodies are storing the trauma and holding onto the pain. It’s why we can’t talk our way out of it.
You’ll also see chronic conditions pop up like arthritis, menstrual issues and disease which in my opinion can often be linked back to a trauma.
What are some strategies you can apply right now to start to heal trauma?
3. Find people and things that make you feel safe. Healing trauma is about creating a sense of safety in your body. Live somewhere that feels safe. Work at a job that makes you feel safe. Hang out with people that make you feel safe.
And likewise, remove people and situations from your life that make you feel unsafe.
4. Getting off caffeine, sugar and alcohol and eating healthy foods allows you to feel your body better. Learning how to let uncomfortable emotions come up without trying to escape them is a really great way to understand what triggers you.
5. Get help for your addictions if you have any. AA, CODA, NA, Gambling, etc. Seek help from groups or addiction specialists.
6. Connect with people. Reach out to friends and family who are safe and make a point to stay connected. Human connection and relationships are a great way to help heal trauma.
7. Then start to take note of patterns. What keeps happening over and over again in your life that you don’t want to happen anymore? This usually shows up with relationships, money and career. Whenever we try to create something, our underlying subconscious beliefs take over and create what’s imprinted.
It’s a form of cognitive dissonance in that we want one thing, but we’re subconsciously creating another because we don’t believe the thing we want is possible.
And that’s how we know we’re dealing with trauma.
So start writing down your patterns.
8. The other way is to work on the relationship with your body. Healing trauma means that we have to feel and get comfortable in our bodies.
Trauma often creates a disassociation, we leave our bodies. And healing trauma requires us to get back in and stay in our bodies and to be able to feel and recognise our emotions.
9. Emotional regulation is the most important skill you can learn as a human being. I’ve developed a course here.
How does hypnosis help heal trauma?
Most of our “limiting beliefs” aka trauma occurs during the ages of 0-7 or rather 0-14. These are our developmental years. We are operating from the limbic part of our brains in a slower brain wave state. This part of the brain develops first in utero and it isn’t until we go to school and start to learn that we begin to use more of our prefrontal cortex.
So since we were programmed through our subconscious aka limbic system, the way to get back into that part of the brain is through meditation and hypnosis. In these states, you turn off your prefrontal cortex (the conscious, thinking, rationalizing, analytical part of your brain that houses the “self”) and get into the amygdala where your emotions and fight/flight are controlled.
From here we can bring up the root cause of the specific issue/trauma and clear it. And then create another event in its place.
It also allows you to feel your body and really see how your trauma is affecting your present life.
It’s like psychedelic therapy without the psychedelics as we are turning off the judgemental part of the brain and accessing the subconscious and unlocking memories without any feelings of guilt or shame keeping them trapped. And we’re just letting those memories come up, witnessing them, sometimes releasing them and then clearing those memories out. Then we create new ones to replace it energetically and to create what you want to experience in life.
It allows you to reorganize your brain/body so that the traumatic event is discharged.
Healing your trauma is the best investment you will ever make.
Healing gives you your life back. It allows you to feel and experience the depth of this human experience. It gives you the ability to finally feel joy.