Here’s a quick overview of how to identify and clear any beliefs holding you back
Your outer reality is a reflection of your inner reality. To change your outer reality, you must first change your inner reality. And the best place to start is by taking inventory of your limiting beliefs.
Have you ever come up with a great idea, felt really energised and inspired and then blasted off to get started and do some work preparing to birth this new idea into the world when suddenly the voices in your head start telling you that “you can’t do that, you’re too poor, or you’re not pretty enough, or you’re not qualified to do that?” These little voices are your limiting beliefs.
We are powerful creators who come here to earth to manifest what’s inside us. We use the quantum field to bring forth what we desire onto the material plane. If we are not creating the life we want, we are blocked and stuck and most likely creating from a belief system that was installed in us by our parents and society.
What are Limiting Beliefs?
Limiting beliefs are intended to keep you safe in dangerous or difficult situations when you were growing up. But as we get older and begin to create our lives, we bump up against these beliefs and they become limitations.
Limitations can often be felt when we try to manifest, start to create something new in our lives or explore a new place. Often we are met with blocks, sabotage, the same old same old or intense emotional triggers. “Why is this happening?” you ask, wondering why your life isn’t perfect even with your vegan diet and yoga routine.
Between the ages 0-14, we are exposed to the world through filters. Filters are created by our parents, society, media, religion, education and all the other ways we experience life on planet earth. These filters create beliefs in our subconscious which then creates our reality. You are a co-creator of your own reality and unless you are consciously aware of, and re-writing your subconscious beliefs, you may be at the mercy of whatever was programmed into your subconscious as a child.
Many times when we try to manifest something – whether it’s a new job, new partner or even just a new car – we bump up against things not going as planned or creating new things which still seem like the same old things – these are patterns. Patterns are the clues as to what’s been programmed into our subconscious because these patterns are our limitations in real time.
For example, when I was a child I wanted to be a doctor. I had a doctor’s kit, studied anatomy, understood the way the body worked and pretended to work on my teddy bears and dolls. My mother didn’t think that was a good plan. When I was 9, she told me that I was bad at math and would never be able to get into medical school. Rather than encouraging me to follow my dream and help me emotionally and academically, she programmed a limiting belief into my subconscious which then turned into several limiting beliefs. These beliefs were “I’m not smart enough. I’m not good enough. I’m bad at math. I can’t be who I want. I will never get into medical school and become a doctor. I will fail.”
Looking back, she was trying to help me. She believed I should find a career that was easier for me to pursue. But because of what she said, I gave up on my dream, stopped studying anatomy, stopped healing my teddy bears and dolls and felt lost in the world. I began to fail math and stop applying myself in school. After almost failing out of high school, I decided I wanted something better for myself. I enrolled at a community college and changed how I showed up at school. I ended up getting the highest marks in the school and all A’s in my math classes. I went on to another university, received an academic scholarship, graduated with honours and have consistently used data and statistics to inform all parts of my life. Now, I work based on what’s in alignment with my core values and authentic belief system.
My mother had single-handily re-created my life’s course with one statement based on her belief system. Until I was able to re-write this experience and clear my limiting beliefs, I never felt like I was working in a profession that was my true calling. I felt like I was just working to get a pay-check and forcing myself to leave my authentic self at the door. I was constantly working for narcissistic bosses who did not see my value and attempted to impose their belief systems on me.
These types of experiences happen so often in our life that if we actually went back to our childhood, we would be amazed at how susceptible we were to other people shaping our lives. And when you clear limiting beliefs, that’s exactly what you have to do.
Positive Affirmations Alone Just Don’t Work
A lot of people believe that by just saying positive affirmations over and over they will clear their limiting beliefs. I’ve never found this to be the case. Positive affirmations are a great way to identify limiting beliefs, but to re-program your subconscious you have to go back to the root cause of the issue, clear it, re-write it and embody your new creation. Without going back to the root cause (the experience/trauma from ages 0 -14 that implanted the limiting belief), the issue will not be truly cleared and re-programmed. But saying positive affirmations is nice too – it’s just like planting a garden over a toxic waste dump. Eventually those plants die unless you clean the soil beneath.
Here’s the thing – when we incarnate in this lifetime we come here with a specific mission. Our mission is to express our authentic code or our soul’s expression and experience and evolve as much as we possibly can. But society has other plans for us. Society takes our mission and re-programs it to match its own mission (insert what you believe that mission to be here_________). And if we want to get back to our true self, we have to look at what beliefs are lurking in our subconscious and re-program those to create the life we were meant to live.
Here are some examples of limiting beliefs:
- I have to be perfect to be loved
- It’s unsafe for me to be my real self
- I’m don’t have enough time
- That will be too hard
- Money is evil
- Rich people are evil
- Money is hard to make
- I’ll always be broke
- I’ll only be loved if I people-please
- I will get hurt, people will hurt me
- Change will kill me
- Life is hard
- I am unlucky
- I am all alone, I have no support
- I will be killed/murdered
- I don’t deserve to be happy/rich/successful
- No one loves me – I am unworthy of love
- Men/Women are evil
- I will fail
- I’m not safe
- I can’t handle it
- I can’t be successful (I’m not worthy)
There are hundreds more – and we all have them.
All of these beliefs are linked to emotions and experiences in our lifetime that shape us. The trick to re-programming your subconscious is to determine the negative patterns in your life, investigate what’s causing those patterns (it’s usually an experience from ages 0 – 14) and then clearing and re-writing those experiences to open up your life to health, happiness and abundance. Following patterns, emotions and triggers are a great place to start investigating.
By clearing and re-writing limiting beliefs, you will re-program your inner reality and therefore create an outer reality that resinates and reflects your authentic self. It’s like taking the breaks off when it comes to living life on your terms and manifesting. And once you start clearing you become limitless and unstoppable. There isn’t anything we can’t do!
How do you know you’ve successfully re-programmed?
- you feel happier, freer and more accepting
- what you consciously desire in life starts to show up
- you are no longer emotionally triggered and feel brave and uninhibited
- you feel like ‘yourself’
- you are peaceful and at ease in any situation
- you trust yourself and know that you will be ok no matter what
- life becomes a beautiful mystery
- your friends and social circle changes to include happier, healthier people
- you change your focus to living your purpose